“A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet “for sale”, who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who has not acquired fully the having mode of existence - briefly, a person who has remained a person and not become a thing - cannot help feeling lonely, powerless, isolated in present-day society. He cannot help doubting himself and his own convictions, if not his sanity. He cannot help suffering, even though he can experience moments of joy and clarity that are absent in the life of his “normal” contemporaries. Not rarely will he suffer from neurosis that results from the situation of a sane man living in an insane society, rather than that of the more conventional neurosis of a sick man trying to adapt himself to a sick society. In the process of going further in his analysis, i.e. of growing to greater independence and productivity, his neurotic symptoms will cure themselves. […] Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love.”—Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving (via mother-iron)
“I think she was afraid to love sometimes. I think it scared her. She was the type to like things that were concrete, like the ocean. Something you could point to and know what it was. I think that’s why she also struggled with love. She couldn’t touch it. She couldn’t hold on to it and make sure it never changed.”—
why does anyone even care about other people doing things that have no negative outcome? like let girls take selfies with starbucks!! let straight dudes wear weird clothes!! let gay people be as feminine or as masculine as they want!! the next time you find yourself getting annoyed at someone, ask yourself “is this disrespectful? is this harmful to me or anyone else?” if the answer is no, then let it go - you probably have bigger things to worry about anyways
don’t sit in your pajamas and reblog posts about how you wish you could be pretty and confident, just do it. Get up early so you can do your hair and makeup all nice for school, flirt with the boys and let them come to you, say “thank you” instead of “no i’m not” when someone calls you pretty, fake that fucking confidence until it’s real, do you understand me? Now go own that red lipstick.
TAKE THIS ADVICE GUYS ITS THE BEST THING YOU COULD EVER DO FOR YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE
It’s true I tell ya! This is how I got my ‘mojo’ ;) Fake it ‘till you make it!
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1. First place you’d go right now if money or other constraints where not an issue?
Had I been asked this a year ago I would have said Japan. Now I’m thinking Scotland. I visited last summer but it was so rushed. I would go there for a month and just take my time and immerse myself in the landscapes of the Highlands.
2. Habits you have?
Does self-sabotage count?
In all seriousness though,I have a habit of being late, always. But I like to think I always make up for it with my habit of incessant laughing. (It sounds better than it is, trust me. It can get very annoying- especially when I’m nervous).
3. If you were a type of animal, what would you be and why?
Either a wolf or an eagle. Both emanate strength and survival instincts- two of the qualities that I lack in some ways. Not to mention that they completely give in to their instincts and who wouldn’t want that?
4. If you could try out any job for a day, what would you like to try?
A doctor J I once tried my hand at med school and found that studying for 25hours a day really wasn’t my thing but I still have a longing to the profession.
5. What’s the best decision you ever made?
Quitting med school, I think. It was definitely the hardest.
6. If you could learn one random skill, what would you learn?
I don’t know if it counts as a skill but I would want to learn how to surf. Or play the Cello!
7. If someone were to make a movie about your life, who would you hope would play you?
Hehehe I reaaaally don’t think my life is movie-worthy :p In any case, I think I’d like Anna Kendrick or Shailene Woodley or Ellen page. I’m not picky :p
8. How would you explain your basic life philosophy?
I think it can be summarized in three simple ‘rules’ that I try to follow
Don’t try to please people, they can never be pleased.
Related: Don’t give a rat’s ass about what people think (still trying)
If you feel unhappy, do something about it – don’t wait around for something or someone to make the change for you
But most importantly, be kind and just with others, don’t make assumptions or judge too quickly, be smart and use your head ALWAYS and don’t forget to listen to your heart.
9. A goal you have for this year?
Hmmm, right now my top priority is graduating and after that finding a job, earn and save money and then leave Dubai.
10. Last song you listened to?
All I want by Kodaline
11. Your favourite holiday so far?
It’s a tie between the East-Mediterranean cruise I was lucky to take in summer 2011 and the northern Europe one I took last summer. The former was all sun, good weather and meeting people my age. The latter involved less people but Scotland. #nuffsaid.
Do you have a tattoo? What and where? (if not, would you like to have one? What and where?)
What’s the happiest you’ve been this year (or ever)? When or how did it happen?
What’s your biggest regret (i.e. something you wish you would have said or done)?
If you were given the choice to live anywhere, where would that be?
Pick one: better to have loved and lost? Or better to have not loved at all?
Craziest thing you’ve ever done?
You are given one wish; no limits as to what the wish can be: what would you wish for?
If you could become another person/animal/object for a day, who/what would you be?
“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”― Paulo Coelho. Can you relate to that quote? What is your dream? (or if you’d rather name your fear that’s fine too!)
Bohemian Rhapsody is no one’s favorite song, but also everyone’s favorite song. Like, when someone asks what your favorite song is you never say Bohemian Rhapsody but when it starts playing on the radio I am pretty sure you crank it up and belt out every single lyric and you don’t even care you’re so proud.
“Fluff rice with a fork, never stir it with a spoon.
Vaseline is the best night time eye cream on the market.
You can buy alcohol and chips with your parents’ gas station credit cards.
If you force something, you’ll break it. That could be good or bad.
It’s important to read the care tags on your clothing and follow those instructions.
Related: don’t wash and dry j. crew wool sweaters.
Changing your car’s oil is not optional.
Whatever physical objects you acquire you will one day have to put into a box and move.
You’re allowed to disagree with negative feedback.
It’s always worth reading the instruction manual.
Nostalgia, like any drug, can be a poison or a remedy.
Pets are like human friends but better in every conceivable way.
Good doctors listen more than they talk.
You can’t fix a burned roux.
Just because someone is an authority figure does not mean they are intelligent/competent/right.
Measure twice, cut once.
Get your nice jeans and dress pants tailored by a professional.
If you’re uncomfortable wearing it you will not look good.
You’re not required to drink alcohol while in a bar.
There are a few things that cure all ills: the beach, your favorite album on vinyl, and fresh garlic.
Kindness is not weakness.
Baking soda is not baking powder.
Taking Excedrin P.M. while still in public is not advisable.
Terrible people will succeed. Wonderful people will fail. The world is not fair.
Appropriate footwear is always key.
You can absolutely be too forgiving.
Real humor punches up, not down.
Reading the assigned chapters will actually help you learn the material.
There are no adults. Everyone is as clueless as you are.
Applying eyeliner well is a timeless art.
You can always leave. Awkward dates, suffocating jobs, hometowns that you outgrow, relationships that aren’t growing in the right direction.
You can always come home again.
But it won’t be the same.
Life is too short for bad books, boring movies, shitty people, and margarine.
Never underestimate the importance of eyebrows.”—
“Don’t get mad. Don’t get even. Get stronger, faster, and more powerful. Fill yourself with
knowledge and empathy and an indomitable spirit because no one else can do that for you.
In the end, it’s your life, your choice, and your world. Give 110%, always.”—Apollo Anton Ohno (via thewastedgeneration)